Resurrection...*levitates*

Ahhh Memories! Life's very essence..

what would Life be without memories? Such a drab, I tell you!

Memories can either make you, or break you!

But what happens when those same memories begin to haunt the very existence of you? why are they so hard to get over? Sometimes, they take over and envelope you completely that you cannot see anything beyond its perimeter. We hold onto memories more than we hold onto the person we created those memories with. Probably because people change, times change, lives change-but the only thing thats constant are the memories in your head. You can weave them into exactly what you want them to be, make them larger than life..larger than the person him(her)self and find comfort in the fact: "Well, you'll always have those memories to hold onto..." But how good of a thing is that? - Trying to hold onto every darn memory you've ever created with someone! That'd be so exhausting, no wonder memories begin to fade as you grow older-they don't completely disappear, but the details sure get blurry. The ones that don't with time are the ones that created a huge impact on you, the ones that have moulded you into the person you are in the present, or the ones that have been ingrained in your brain so deep that only a degenerative disorder could erase. 

I believe that people find it so difficult to move on from a heartache, a bad breakup because of these very memories. They look back at all the things that person has said, done in *those* happy times and forget rationality, the *real* cause for the breakup. They hold onto these "happy memories" for dear life and wish and hope and pray for them to come back. But here's the thing: They are memories, ghosts of the past and once something has died...rarely can it be resurrected. Another reason for resentment in relationships too-we forget that people change, they are entitled to change...afterall, change is the only constant thing in Life! But memories make it difficult to accept Change, we are so caught up in the glitz and glamor of the past memories that we refuse to see reality-we wear blindfolds, oh-so-tightly, and block out all light. 
      I doubt memories can be fought, its like fighting an invisible monster! You cannot kill something that you can't see. Resistance is futile. All one can do is make peace with these taunting memories and hope that one day when you look back at them-you'll find a reason for them being there and not resent them as much. I see another *resolution* coming up for the Year 2012: "Hold onto the person, not the memory!" :)